Your spouse is number one. Your children, number two. Some of us got this mixed up the minute kids appear in our marriage. We act as though our top priority is our kids. Kids are important, but without a solid marriage, raising kids is doubly difficult. Make your spouse feel appreciated. The secret is to be kind and generous to your spouse every single day. Kindness is the miracle that you need to turn your marriage, your life around. Spread the message.