Are we entirely responsible for our children? Is it our fault if they don’t turn out well? Things may not always turn out the way we want, but miracles do happen.
Our children are a test for us. When they’re grown, they have to want to do good. It’s their choice. We’re responsible for how they’ve turned out, but up to a point. As they grow up, they make their own decisions more and more.
As parents, we consistently make prayers (e.g. Al-Qur’an: Surah Al-Furqaan: 25:74), seeking Allah’s guidance for ourselves and for them. Guidance is something we must seek all the time, because this is a matter of the heart.
We all have our moments as parents. But never ever give up. Remember Prophet Nuh a.s., who still prayed for his son, despite knowing he’s about to drown.
God will reward us based on our intentions and efforts. So long as we’re sincere, and seek repentance, have faith that God Most Generous will help us. In terms of efforts, we will never get it 100% right. Wake up for the night prayer, help others, no matter where they come from. For me when I help people, I make a little prayer that God will send ‘helpers’ to my path and my family and children’s path. Miracles do happen. Nothing is impossible if God wills it so. ~ Jamilah Samian